Post by Stark on Aug 22, 2016 11:51:04 GMT -5
It's great to be able to relate to people, but I personally hate that feeling of "anxiety" or stress that comes with talking to, interacting with, or meeting cool, new or "high value" or "highly social" people. This feeling of neediness is the result of drawing positive emotions from the other person, which takes you out of you own lack of positive emotions.
The key to eliminating this neediness or outcome dependence with people is to be able to give more positive emotions to yourself than others can give to you.
This may be a fairly difficult concept to grasp, but whenever you see a pretty girl (or guy, depending on who you are) and you feel nervous and unable to talk to them, it is because you fear losing the positive emotions they can give you. This concept also applies to people you don't find attractive. Someone you don't find attractive is easy to approach and talk to because they can't "give" you more positive emotions than you can give yourself, or in some cases, any positive emotions. When you talk to this person you don't want their positive feelings, you're only concerned with the positive emotions you can give to yourself, so you joke, talk, and express yourself, because that's how you make yourself feel good.
The key to eliminating nervousness & neediness is to be able to give yourself more positive emotions than anyone else can. Take control of your emotions. Thanks for reading masterminders.
The key to eliminating this neediness or outcome dependence with people is to be able to give more positive emotions to yourself than others can give to you.
This may be a fairly difficult concept to grasp, but whenever you see a pretty girl (or guy, depending on who you are) and you feel nervous and unable to talk to them, it is because you fear losing the positive emotions they can give you. This concept also applies to people you don't find attractive. Someone you don't find attractive is easy to approach and talk to because they can't "give" you more positive emotions than you can give yourself, or in some cases, any positive emotions. When you talk to this person you don't want their positive feelings, you're only concerned with the positive emotions you can give to yourself, so you joke, talk, and express yourself, because that's how you make yourself feel good.
The key to eliminating nervousness & neediness is to be able to give yourself more positive emotions than anyone else can. Take control of your emotions. Thanks for reading masterminders.